Wednesday, September 9, 2009

Opinions, Please! (Wedding Edition)

Good morning, readers!

Last night I was able to figure out how to change the batteries in the smoke alarm/carbon monoxide detector and was actually able to get a good night sleep (have I mention to you guys that I have been sleeping on the couch when I am at my apartment ever since the incident? well I have) last night.

Since I got such a great response (in terms of number of votes, not how you guys voted) with my last plea for opinions, I am putting it to you guys again (no worries, this time there isn't a wrong answer...at least not yet) to make a major life decision for me.

S and I are getting married next October (as in October 2010) and I have no clue what people in our wedding party are going to wear. I know what you are saying, "But Sarah, you have over a year, why are you stressing out?" Answer: I am neurotic.

So here are the facts:
Wedding Date: October 23, 2010
Number of bridesmaids: 3
Time of wedding: 3:00 PM
Location: Church
Dress color: navy

I have gone back and forth on this issue and here's the thing...buying bridesmaid's dresses sucks. I don't care how many brides say, "Oh I picked this pink taffeta explosion because it's SO VERSATILE. They can totally wear it again!" No one ever wears it again*. Because of this, I don't want these ladies spending much on their dresses and anything wedding-related (that I have liked) is expensive. The benefits is that the girls all match.

Oh wait, I forgot to mention that my little sister/MOH wants strapless. The rest want some sort of straps. So if we go with the matching option, the MOH will have strapless and the rest will not.

But I also really like the idea of the girls being able to pick something (within my guidelines of course) that they like and may actually wear again, spending whatever amount they think is comfortable. The result (in my mind anyway) will be something like this (but with matching shoes):









So here's your chance to tell me what you think:



Vote your hearts out people and tell me why in the comments!

Thanks!



Also, send feel better vibes to S who has come down with something that involves lots of coughing and congestion.




*Please don't send me an e-mail telling me how your bridesmaids wear theirs ALL THE TIME. I am sure every once in a blue moon someone re-wears the dress, but the majority of the time they don't, even if the dress was really not bad.

31 comments:

Martinis or Diaper Genies? said...

Hi lady,
So here is a secret about me. I was a wedding planner for a hot minute. I even had a wedding planning blog www.socialdesignevents.blogspot.com

I am a firm believer in you picking the dresses, but not picking "bridesmaid dresses". Bridesmaid dresses existed due to lack of internet where all the girls could "order" the same dress. Now you can go to bcbg.com or bloomies.com or whatev and get a very cool, normal dress. You also could get really creative and pick out 3 dresses that are different, but you pick them.

Also they are not robots so let them do their hair, jewelry etc however they want. It will look much more stylish.

Ok my wedding-ness is out for the time being.

carrie1 said...

Ahh... the dreded Bridesmaid dress! I picked my dresses out, and I am actually happy to say two of the girls wore their's again for different funtions. =) But I like the idea of them picking out their own style that they are comfortable in.

My next go round thats what I may choose to do too. =)

~c

Oct. 23rd was my wedding date too! =)

Cee said...

Ok I voted to let them choose their own but with conditions...in the past year I have seen the pick your own dress done very well (all the dresses were exactly the same color and fabric and length but the tops...ie strapless or straps were a little different)

I have also seen it done horribly...all the dresses were navy and the shoes were all silver (about 10 bridesmaids) and it didn't look good at all. The dresses were just waaaaaay too different. It just looked strange. It was similar to the picture but the dresses were not as pretty as some of those are.

Sunshinemeg said...

The navy is a great choice. I think it is your day and therefore you should decide. If you want them to have a choice and do their own thing - let them. If you want to have everyone matching, let them know. It is your call.

Justine said...

My bridesmaids all had the same dress, mainly because that's what they said they wanted to do. They all wanted to match. However, I really do like the look where they all have different dresses all in the same color and length. I say let them pick their own :) David's Bridal would be a good place to go through for that because all you have to do it pick the color and they have a TON of options, and none of their dresses are too expensive. :) Good Luck! :)

Dollface said...

I think that you are the bride and you should be able to pick your dresses. If your MOH wants strapless, thats great bc it makes her stand out.... but the rest should have matching strappy dresses... xxxoo

Kelsey @ Seattle Smith's said...

I was just in a wedding where the girls had 5 different designs to pick from, that were all JCrew AND had the same material. This way, we got to choose, but they were all similar in look. I LOVED IT!!!

Miss Emily Anne said...

I'm loving the pictures! This is exactly what I want to do! Let them choose, but you, of course, have the power to veto.

Perfectly Pleasant said...

I say spend a day with each of your bridesmaids and pick out their dress with them. If they have a say in what they wear each lady can pick something the flatters them and they are comfortable in -- which will make them look even more fab!

Southern Champagne Wishes said...

I love the navy! And I love the idea of letting them choose, although I think you should definitely have a say - unless you trust all of them completely. When I think about some of my friends, I know I could not give them free reign or I would wind up very angry! Haha!

Dallas Shaw said...

this is great
dallas
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Kassie said...

I didn't vote, bc it's a little complicated! lol.

I'm totally with the letting them choose, but with conditions. I think if you go to JCrew or David's Bridal, and tell them the color and the fabric, then letting them choose the style that best works for their body is perfect! It'll look great in the photos as well. However, the ones where you just give a color and say "go for it", is not really that great, in my opinion! Just my thoughts, but it tends to look not like bridesmaids in photos, just like wedding guests who all happen to wear the same color--which is really common for a color like navy! lol. I'm actually in a wedding in dec with a navy dress, and we could choose our own from this bridal store. but ultimately I think it should be your decision as the bride, and your friends will be great and just go with it. :)

and this is just a ps. but I'm one of those annoying people who wore their dress again! haha. I was in a wedding in feb in new zealand, and she chose my dress for me, since I obviously couldn't myself. I love it, since it was just from a regular store, like a BR type place over there, and with just 2 bridesmaids, it looked like a regular, just pretty dress! But I know that's an exception!!

And now I've written you a novel! :)

the future mrs Hinz said...

i had a pretty good idea of what I wanted the girls to wear - but i just took them with me to pick out someting they would all like. i didnt even mind if everyone had differnet dresses - but they all settled on one. so it worked out. but they are all wearing their own red shoes - any kind they want to wear!

Whitney said...

I love the different styles! Gone are the times where every bridesmaid needs to match!

Kristin said...

I'm biased. I let me girls pick a cocktail length black dress. It turned out beautifully!

anotherfishinthesea said...

I think letting them pick works well, especially in something like navy, where you can't really have a ton of variations or "interpretations" of hue. Definitely more modern.

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Jennifer said...

I say let your BM pick their dresses with your guidelines. If you are thinking someone might get crazy choose 3 options yourself and have them pick from it. I love navy btw for weddings. so classic. If you need ideas pls let me know. Was a wedding planner in my prior life and still love event styling...so I have a million ideas!

Shanny said...

I think you came up with a good idea. Let them be happy with their individual dresses....as long as you love the looks =)

Brittany Ann said...

You're getting married the day before we did! Our anniversary is Oct. 24! And I love the mix and match look! I did it, and I loved it!

Maggie said...

Navy's the perfect color to issue guidelines and let them go forth and shop. SHOW THEM THAT PHOTO. Tell them to coordinate with each other and you, but that you'd love for them to pick their own styles. But that you get veto power.

And, yep, you will hate me, but two out of four of my bridesmaids have already reworn their dress from our wedding - which was only three months ago.

FashionAddict said...

I actually like the idea of mismatched dresses. My bridesmaids and I just went shopping in the mall and found a pretty halter top black dress at JCPenneys for $10. They both fell in love with the style (even though I said to pick out whatever they wanted in black) and bought them. For $10, I did not feel guilty and they did not feel strapped for cash.

Jane said...

I am a bridesmaid in my friends wedding and we are all wearing the same color/material of dresses, and it looks so nice because all of the dresses flatter everyone! I like both ways, but think different is really fun!! Those pictures are gorgeous!

laurenfromtexas said...

All my bridesmaids wore LBDs (Little Black Dresses) - so actually, they HAVE worn theirs again! I loved the dresses so much I was tempted to get one myself! What I did was, took them to ONE place, so all the dresses had to come from the same place, and I didn't want anyone to have the same dress. So they each (6) had a different dress, all black, from the same place. A nice mix of different while still staying congruent. :)

Also - my flowers were pink. I am LOVING the navy & pink. :)

amy kelinda said...

Firstly, congrats on the wedding! Secondly, I'm with the people here who said that you can have totally rockin' looking bridesmaids if you let them pick their own dress but with a few guidelines. I think choosing the same material and color is a big must to keep the looks cohesive, because even if someone is one shade slightly lighter/darker than the rest, it can look strange. I'm guessing that you can find a retailer that does a lot of party dresses in different colors and styles (J.Crew comes to mind) and choose a color/fabric from there. Then, let your bridesmaids pick their dresses with those guidelines and you'll be sure that the colors will be exactly identical!

Jules said...

I think navy is a great color and I love the inspiration photos. I think that if you pick a store like David's or J.Crew and let them pick out of that it will look nice. I'm sure they all have good taste and would get something nice on their own, but this way everyone gets to chose a style they like in the color you want and it will all coordinate nicely.

Good luck with your decision!

landlocked bride said...

You already know how I feel on this one (because I blogged about it, too, haha). Especially since your MOH wants a strapless and the others don't, I'd say let them pick their own, or find about 5-6 options you like and let them each pick from those.

Chelsea Talks Smack said...

OH I'M LOVING THE NAVY BLUE!!!! LOVE!!! YAY!

Llama said...

I voted that you pick. I would say to get some input and for you to think about the different body types of your bridesmaids so you don't embarrass anyone. But I think in the end it will make you stand out more in the pictures if everyone is more uniform (except for the MOH, thats cute to have her different!) Its your day and true friends will love whatever you love! :)
Can't wait to hear you decision!

Brown Girl said...

Let them pick. That's all I got to say about that.

happy_wife said...

You know what? I thought more of you than to think that your bridesmaids may actually wear their dress again. Really? No. (waiting for you to think "No, it's navy - a universal color- and they are picking the style so they COULD wear it again"). No. They won't. But you know what? It is all good. You have done the same, for your various other friends, so the universe is all good with that. Your bridesmaids will buy any dress that you want. Simple as that. Don't believe me? Where was the last place you wore your bridesmaid dress? Um, yeah....hi.

(I wish I had let my maids pick..what do I care?)

Carol said...

For my wedding I am thinking of doing everything different. J Crew dresses same color and then everyone chooses their own style. I love your vision so far and I'm excited to hear more in the next year of planning! We can compare notes! :)