Tuesday, November 10, 2009

Off to a good start...

Last night S and I had our first official marriage class. In said marriage class, we had to take our FOCCUS (Facilitating Open Couple Communication, Understanding & Study) Couple Inventory (sounds official, no?)...

This test asks a bunch of questions...some pertinent (finances, children, religion), some awkward (homosexual tendencies, sexual preferences)...and it is your job to lie to make yourselves sound better be honest with yourself about your relationship.

The lady who leads the class (and who coincidentally is also the annulment coordinator) gave us strict instructions not to discuss the test or our answers until our tests were completed and we were out of the room.

After the test the following conversation occurs:
Me: *laughing* God! That test was so random! I told you they would ask about joint checking accounts!
S: Yeah. That was an exact question too! Did you answer honestly on all of them?
Me: For the most part. Some questions were worded a little weird though.
S: I answered with what I thought I were the right answers... *pause* ...except one I answered honestly... *dramatic pause*
Me: Uh oh.
S: Ha! I put that my partner watches too much TV.



So now I am going to have to discuss with a priest my Bravo/DCC addiction. Fantastic.

23 comments:

Martinis or Diaper Genies? said...

First of all...please detail the questions on sexual tendencies. I would REALLY like to know the church's interest and what questions they have for young married couples.

Also B and I went to a marriage counseling "retreat"
I wish I filmed it.
One woman had a white plastic tube that she kept rubbing on the inside of her cheek very OCD like and it scared me.
Another woman was in a gypsy costume (outfit) and cried A LOT.

this is what you get when you go to a non denominational counseling session.

It Is Everlasting said...

We did the FOCUS and really like it! I think that both of us answered really honestly (Mr. for sure said I watch to much TV, I checked that I thought inlaws could be a problem). When we went for our post evaluation we had a high "match rate" and then had some really intense, productive conversations about areas where we felt differently. We still laugh about some of the awkward questions though... the nakedness and what not.

At least I'm skinny said...

I am scared for the day I have to go through a marriage class. I think a tv addiction will be the most normal thing I'll end up having to discuss with the priest.

On a side note, in one of the episodes of Living Single I watched yesterday Sinclair and Overton had to go to pre-martial counseling and they failed the test. Thankfully the pastor let them retake it and the crisis was averted. Whew!

"Julie" said...

I still can't stop thinking about license to wed...but maybe it's because I'm still in the single world..did they ask about condiments??? I'm just askin'....bahah

carrie1 said...

Ha ha ha.... I remember taking that test! It was a little awkward. =) But atleast its done and out of the way now. =)

Whitney said...

Oh hilarious!

Lauren said...

We didn't have to do this, but my brother & sister-in-law did. They got a real kick out of the questions!

amy kelinda said...

Really?! That's insane. Homosexual tendencies, hahaha... And that the counselor is also the annulment coordinator: classic. That's surprisingly fitting.

Mrs. Bear said...

We took a couples inventory too and were shocked at our results. There were 160 questions and 2 days before the wedding we met with the Pastor to discuss them. I couldn't believe how right on he was about me and about my hubs - it was like he knew us just from the inventory! We settled a lot of topics that could have been potential arguments in the future. I highly recommend everyone does one!@

HoustonGurly said...

Oh, I remember having to go through what the Catholics call "Engaged Encounter". An entire weekend of stuff like that at a retreat center. Fun times! :)

Samma said...

WHoa! We did the 5 Love Languages, and it was not intense at all. And it was done at home. Thank goodness.

Cee said...

My friend from work went through FOCCUS with her husband and her instructors were this husband and wife who wanted to talk about sex all the time. Weird.

Elizabeth Marie said...

Oh my god, may you not combust in flames when you walk in church next time you heathen Bravo watcher!

Kristin said...

I'm not mature enough to keep a straight face during that business. Ah ha ha

happy_wife said...

I sooo remember those tests. My minister actually asked me if we had ever had an argument. I think I laughed in his face. Yeah, I remember, I totally did.

However, the minister also told me he though The Husband had an "anger" problem which was totally, and completely off. I mean, he didn't start hitting me with phone books until, like, a few years into our marriage.

But I was acting up, so I deserved it.

brit @ landlocked bride said...

Too funny!

Justine said...

You guys are Catholic? :) We are, too! I remember taking that, I literally laughed out loud at some of them. Also, I finished in about 30 minutes, and it took Jon two hours. LITERALLY! He had to take it home and then bring it back another time!

And my FIL said he did the SAME thing when we asked his parents if they had to take that test, too!! Haha :)

FashionAddict said...

LOL, I remember taking those classes. They ended up getting us really excited about being married (as opposed to just being excited about the wedding).

Midtown Girl said...

Would love to see what questions they asked - so fascinating!

Wonder if the priest could be a reality FANatic as well - lol!

XOXO

anotherfishinthesea said...

What a good account of these classes - I am not sure if I am dreading it or looking forward to it. My uncle is our minister though, so I was definitely strong on the point that whoever counseled us could NOT be the same person marrying us. That would be BIZARRO WORLD!

Ams said...

I love the conversation after the test was taken... makes me laugh. If t.v. watching is the worst of your guys' problems then you all are good to go!

ihatemichigan said...

I love that the marriage counselor is also the annulment coordinator. What kind of irony are they playing with?

Jane said...

Well then. That sounds like a lot of, um, fun? I'm also not sure if I am dreading or looking forward to it, but then again I don't even have the ring yet. Sigh.