Hi. Remember that time I said I was going to post more? Me neither. But I'm here.
I promised last week that I would talk about the whole garter toss thing and why it isn't for me, but first an update (on wedding shenanigans).
I've decided I should take some time during all of this unemployment nonsense to convince someone to bake us a cake and put together some flowers. I should also find someone to deal with my makeup and my hair. Suggestions? Send them my way.
I have ordered (and picked up) invitations. Sent out save the dates. Bought wedding shoes for myself. Picked up the bridesmaids dresses.
And now? Now I wait. And wait.
Some days October seems a LONG way off.
One thing that was apparently very hard for people to grasp was the fact that I refuse to do a garter toss. I'm not sure why but people (imaginary internet people and family and everyone else) seems to get bent out of shape when I announce that I am not letting S toss my garter (that just sounds dirty), but nearly every time I mention it, I get a crazy look or a "Why not? It's tradition! You LOVE tradition!"
That's right, I do love tradition. I love the idea of something old, something new. But the garter is just too much for me. (Same goes for the unity candle but that's a different story for a different day.)
In my original post on the matter I said: "Here is the thing: I'm not into PDAs in general, let alone INVITING my brand-new husband to go up my dress in front of all of our friends and family. Nothing about that to me sounds fun. Would you let your husband reach up your dress at the family reunion? (If your answer is yes, please find another blog. Thanksomuch.) I don't see how this shit is any different."
I've been to plenty of weddings where a garter toss was the norm. I have seen grooms climb up a bride's dress and I have seen it where they just have an extra garter on hand. Either way, I think it's tacky. And I don't want something I find tacky at OUR WEDDING.
As a matter of fact, I do not even plan to wear a garter at all. It's not my thing.
I am pretty sure S could absolutely care less about any of this garter nonsense, but it doesn't hurt my case that almost all of his male friends (and a lot of mine as well) who will be at the wedding are married.
When I originally posted this last month, Maggie left a great comment (and it's great advice for every bride):
"Totally with you here.
Wedding "traditions" that we skipped:
- Bouquet toss
- Garter toss
- Father walking down the aisle
- Wedding cake
- Wedding favors
He even snuck into bed with me the night before. Screw not seeing each other - it's the only way we were going to get a good night's sleep.
Point is, we eliminated everything that felt icky and fake to us, and concentrated on making it the most "us" we could. And our wedding rocked because of that.
Go with your gut."
More questions? Feel free to leave them in the comments (and I promise to be better about getting to them...sorry for the delay Brown Girl)
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